I often wonder what action of people irritates me most. Sometimes I think it is dishonesty or double standards. It's true that dishonesty troubles me, but it does not irritate. I just turn away from the person in question. The one thing I cannot stand is fickle mindedness on events that concern me in any way -- not sticking to appointments with me, not doing things that one has committed to, rapidly changing decisions etc. Such events irritate me to the bone. I get restless, confused and just want to ignore the person doing this forever. This behavior stems mostly from the fact that I prefer organization and careful planning, and it really disturbs my plans (or so I perceive) if another person changes his/her plans when I am involved. Sometimes I build hopes or make future plans based on another person's word. And when they get shattered due to some reason I perceive as ridiculous, it is quite an unpleasant feeling. What's really bad is that this sometimes makes me anxious and suspicious of the other person's motives and I fear being taken for a ride. I am trying to learn to cope, but results have been few. That's mostly because I have never had to adjust to such people in the long run. The only people with whom I have had to coordinate plans have been either very organized, known me very well or too far to cause concern.